I had an interesting conversation with a client the other day while preparing documents for her. We started talking about her family and her childhood but she did not seem to know much about her parents and almost nothing about her grandparents.
She became embarrassed and simply replied, “I never asked them that question.” It got me thinking; we sometimes go years without knowing anything about our neighbors or even our good friends, but how is it possible, we know so little about our parents and grandparents and even great-grandparents? It’s the same answer my client gave – we never asked that question.
I love the ad that talks about checking your DNA…. find out about your ancestry. What difference would it make to know If I came from a castle in Transylvania, if I can’t ask the Count, who lived there, about his childhood…his playmates…. or when did he start drinking blood for a hobby?
I found out by accident that my father, who was a doctor, once repaired the busted nose of middleweight champion, Jake La Motta after a fight at Madison Square Garden. My father was making some extra money as a “cut” man at the legendary Garden, and it just so happened that La Motta was fighting that night. For his efforts, the “Raging Bull” gave my father a hundred dollars. A story I never would have known unless it just slipped out…
We miss these stories about our parents unless we ask, or it just comes out. The Internet has given us more information than ever before, but it’s about someone else, or something else. We Google something every day, but we know nothing of ourselves…. where do we come from? What kind of life did our parents and grandparents have? What stories could they tell?
You have stories to tell…. your life, growing up…school days, mishaps, funny stories, but they’re yours. Who is going to really know about you, if you don’t tell them? Kids don’t ask questions
when they’re kids, but if you tell them about you, they’ll remember.
A great song by Barbra Streisand and the theme song for the movie, The Way We Were, describes these memories. Listen to this song and get motivated to tell your kids your story.
And by the way, here is an interesting story…I stood in line for 4 hours trying to be an extra for that film…but that’s my story to tell.
TAKE IT FOR WHAT IT IS…. IT’S JUST AS I SEE IT!