When the News Gives You Tired Blood
When I was a boy, television commercials promised a remedy for something called “tired blood.” If you were worn out, sluggish or simply tired of being tired, Geritol was supposed to put the spring back in your step. Lately, I have wondered whether tired blood has made...
So, Any Thoughts on Retiring?
There it was again. Just the other day, a client looked at me and asked the question I seem to be hearing with increasing regularity: “So, when are you going to retire?” Holy moly. Do I look that bad? Naturally, I immediately went to the nearest mirror to see whether...
A Little Boy, His Grandmother, and a Small Flag
The Fourth of July has come and gone once again. The hot dogs have disappeared, the fireworks have frightened every dog within a three-county radius, and somewhere in America there is still one stubborn sparkler refusing to admit it’s finished. A few days ago, I was...
Father’s Day: A Memory in Time
As Father's Day approaches, I find myself reflecting not only on the origins of this special day, but on the many memories that continue to shape my life decades after my father's passing. Father's Day began as a simple effort to honor fathers and the sacrifices they...
I’m Taking A Mulligan
Well, this is the month I’ve been waiting for; the shortest month for sure but to me, the month that counts. We’ve had Groundhog Day, but my guess is that when PETA finally prevails, there will be a sign next year on the groundhog’s den, which reads, “We’re closed,...
Accepting Less Is Unacceptable
How often in our lives do we have the same conversation over and over with ourselves; I wish I had said this, or I should have done or would have done that? We repeat this to ourselves or to our patient spouses who have heard this same old story over and over. We...
Love is in the Air…and so is the Money
She came into my office, bursting with her good news…maybe a better word is gushing. She wanted to change her estate planning and put new beneficiaries in place. She couldn’t wait to tell me that her life has changed and she has met the man of her dreams…..all in two...
Seeing the Best When Reading the Worst
A few days ago, my phone rang. It was a client calling to tell me that an “angel” had saved her granddaughter during the shooting at her college. She was crying on the phone, in a strange combination of pure joy and utter depression. She was asking the question we are...
A Real Gift
How often do we use the phrase, “to move on”? It seems that this piece of advice is the handy way to tell people how they should react from trauma. This phrase gets us out of the pregnant pause in a conversation when speaking to someone who has recently lost a loved...